2017 March | Tony White

Listening to the unconscious in self

Written by Tony White on March 22, 2017 · Leave a Comment

In working with enactments the therapist must seek to become aware of their unconscious and dissociated parts of self. Read more »

Categories: Theory - Tags: enactment, games, unconscious

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Empathy is magical thinking

on August 12, 2018

Here is a definition of empathy The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another This represents magical thinking One can only ever feel their own feelings. You can […] Read more »

Categories: emotions - Tags: empathy

Mother and child relationships

on August 10, 2018

Mothers and fathers can generally treat their various children in a similar ways and one could even say equally, but they are not going to feel the same about each of them. Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: children, Parenting

Hypnotic induction and ulterior transactions

on July 14, 2018

The importance of emotional catharsis in psychotherapy has been known since the time of Freud. Maybe there are two factors involved in this observation. Yes the expression of feelings can be psychologically beneficial for the client but also the client picks up hypnotic inductions at the same time. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: adult ego state, child ego state, hypnosis, life script

Introjection and the integrated Adult

on June 22, 2018

People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: adult ego state, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

Introjection – two aspects.

on June 21, 2018

The Child ego state develops through early decisions and the Parent ego state develops through introjections. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: introjection

Desensitisation and hyper sensitisation

on June 17, 2018

However it also works the other way. If we are in an environment where we have little confrontational input then the Free Child will assume that is going to continue and it will come out more and more so we become hyper sensitised. Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: personality

Smothering on the separation scale

on May 20, 2018

However as is the case with human behaviour once the script gets set the person will start to do things that promote the life script even as they protest against it. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: teenager

Symbiosis and identity formation in the teenager

on May 17, 2018

However maybe this is not so true with every adolescent especially the 20% I am referring to. Perhaps there is just not a strong drive or need in this group of people and the assumption that all people have this need is an incorrect assumption. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: anger, teenager

Opposites in the human mind

on May 13, 2018

People in their desire to be more in control, end up being more out of control. Paradoxically the more you let self be out of control, the more in control of self you will actually be. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: personality

Children and emotional situations

on May 12, 2018

When a child is in a new and unknown situation that is emotionally charged it will try and read how mother is emotionally reacting in its attempt to get a base line for itself. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: children, emotions

Murder suicide

on May 11, 2018

It suggests that murder suicide is really a subtype of suicide. That the decision to murder others first, comes as an after thought to the decision to kill self. Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: murder suicide, suicide

Suicide and family relationships

on May 10, 2018

If you are working with a suicidal person and their family then you know that at least some members will be supportive of the suicide from their Free Child point of view. Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: Ego states, family, Free child, suicide

Play therapy and the aggressive child

on May 8, 2018

In my office I have a dolls house, which I use when I see children and their parents for therapy. I find it can produce valuable information about the psyche of the child. What is going on inside the child’s head at that time. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: child anger, dolls house, play therapy

Working with the rebellious person

on May 8, 2018

Listening to a person talk about how they cut self is stress producing for most people including therapists. The therapist needs to be clear they do not fall into subtly pressuring the client into making the contract due to their own anxieties. Read more »

Categories: self harm, teenager - Tags: rebellious child, self harm, teenager, Transactional analysis

Despair and its treatment

on May 6, 2018

A significant attachment figure was never fully internalised in childhood and thus there is a sense of a hole inside self. The therapist is used by the client to fill that hole. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: attachment, despair, emotions, feelings

The therapist’s role in bringing up sensitive topics in therapy

on May 5, 2018

If one allows the client to avoid it for long periods of time and addresses it in a very a tepid way that may empower the shame. Read more »

Categories: Anorexia - Tags: Anorexia, no suicide contract, self harm, shame, therapy

Confronting magical thinking about suicide

on April 20, 2018

The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain. Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: Ego states, magical thinking, suicide, Transactional analysis

Big feelings and little feelings

on April 11, 2018

Of course big feelings do occur in childhood, sometimes many of them occur and many are not dealt with or resolved as the child cannot articulate its need to do so Read more »

Categories: emotions - Tags: feelings

Teenage conventional thinking

on April 9, 2018

Recent research on what teenagers see as, “What makes a good person”. They were asked to rate the qualities of people who were good people. This indicates teenagers are a conventional group of people in these views. But this seems […] Read more »

Categories: teenager - Tags: rebellion

Wall of trivia

on April 8, 2018

The wall of trivia allows for two people to keep an emotional distance from each other. Read more »

Categories: relationship - Tags: relationship

Treatment of the passive aggressive personality

on April 2, 2018

Provide lots of positive stokes to the PA and work on how they may filter the strokes. Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: passive aggressive personality

Developmental problems for the child from the affluent family

on March 25, 2018

The child from the wealthy family is more likely to be left with the question - Who am I? Read more »

Categories: teenager - Tags: depression, identity

Features of rackets

on March 16, 2018

Anger is a distancing emotion it pushes people apart. When people want distance in a relationship anger can be used to achieve this Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: emotions, feelings

Working through scared feelings.

on March 11, 2018

I personally disagree with this. In my view humans are naturally communal beings and we need (are dependent) on others at least to some degree. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: Ego states, feelings, scare, shame, Transactional analysis, working through feelings

Aversion therapy & implied communication in therapy

on March 9, 2018

The goal is to stop the drug use but in the very nature of the treatment one is giving permission to take drugs. Same in the Redecision therapy I use Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: Aversion therapy, implied communication, psychotherapy

Unconscious communication in therapy

on March 1, 2018

If the conscious and unconscious want different things always give the client what the unconscious wants. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: unconscious communication

Post suicide fantasy

on February 25, 2018

“I am not one who fears the end of life. I think when it comes it will be a relief. Can finally rest.” Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: samsonic, suicide

Redecision therapy reconsidered

on February 2, 2018

An internal LOC is a empowering position. It is saying to the person, you can take charge and change your life. You are the one in control of your life script, feelings and so forth. Read more »

Categories: Theory - Tags: redecision therapy