2017 August | Tony White

Relational contact in the Parent interview

Written by Tony White on August 14, 2017 · Leave a Comment

Again it will lead to a sense of feeling heard and feeling some level of relationship building with another person. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: psychotherapy

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Confronting magical thinking about suicide

on April 20, 2018

The magical thinking about suicide is that it can result in a relief from one’s pain. Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: Ego states, magical thinking, suicide, Transactional analysis

Big feelings and little feelings

on April 11, 2018

Of course big feelings do occur in childhood, sometimes many of them occur and many are not dealt with or resolved as the child cannot articulate its need to do so Read more »

Categories: emotions - Tags: feelings

Teenage conventional thinking

on April 9, 2018

Recent research on what teenagers see as, “What makes a good person”. They were asked to rate the qualities of people who were good people. This indicates teenagers are a conventional group of people in these views. But this seems […] Read more »

Categories: teenager - Tags: rebellion

Wall of trivia

on April 8, 2018

The wall of trivia allows for two people to keep an emotional distance from each other. Read more »

Categories: relationship - Tags: relationship

Treatment of the passive aggressive personality

on April 2, 2018

Provide lots of positive stokes to the PA and work on how they may filter the strokes. Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: passive aggressive personality

Developmental problems for the child from the affluent family

on March 25, 2018

The child from the wealthy family is more likely to be left with the question - Who am I? Read more »

Categories: teenager - Tags: depression, identity

Features of rackets

on March 16, 2018

Anger is a distancing emotion it pushes people apart. When people want distance in a relationship anger can be used to achieve this Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: emotions, feelings

Working through scared feelings.

on March 11, 2018

I personally disagree with this. In my view humans are naturally communal beings and we need (are dependent) on others at least to some degree. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: Ego states, feelings, scare, shame, Transactional analysis, working through feelings

Aversion therapy & implied communication in therapy

on March 9, 2018

The goal is to stop the drug use but in the very nature of the treatment one is giving permission to take drugs. Same in the Redecision therapy I use Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: Aversion therapy, implied communication, psychotherapy

Unconscious communication in therapy

on March 1, 2018

If the conscious and unconscious want different things always give the client what the unconscious wants. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: unconscious communication

Post suicide fantasy

on February 25, 2018

“I am not one who fears the end of life. I think when it comes it will be a relief. Can finally rest.” Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: samsonic, suicide

Redecision therapy reconsidered

on February 2, 2018

An internal LOC is a empowering position. It is saying to the person, you can take charge and change your life. You are the one in control of your life script, feelings and so forth. Read more »

Categories: Theory - Tags: redecision therapy

The shadow

on January 21, 2018

But then after halloween is over that part of us is quickly packed away again safe from our conscious. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: shadow

Why is anger seen as bad

on January 16, 2018

First and foremost anger is always potentially life threatening. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: anger, child development

Parental expectations of children

on January 11, 2018

Research on what parents believe children can do at various ages found significant gaps in parental expectations in some core areas of child psychological development Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: children psychology

Developmental significance of jealousy

on January 10, 2018

If handled correctly by the parents it allows the child to develop out of its primary narcissism and to develop a sense of the worth of others. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: Jealousy

Reverse psychology as a therapeutic approach (and the teenager)

on January 10, 2018

It is imperative a therapist seek to engage with the Free Child of the teenage client. But many therapist's forget this and stay focussed only on the Rebellious Child Read more »

Categories: addiction - Tags: smoking

Nonverbal permissions by default

on January 2, 2018

Permissions can also be given in an implied way. A therapist who listens to a client and accepts a contract is covertly giving the permission to change Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: permission, suicide

Depression and suicide

on November 24, 2017

Depression does not cause suicide. However Transactional Analysis can provide a clear theoretical explanation of why one depressed person can be suicidal and another is not even thinking about i Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: transactional, transactions

Relational contact in the Parent interview

on August 14, 2017

Again it will lead to a sense of feeling heard and feeling some level of relationship building with another person. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: psychotherapy

Wall of trivia

on July 1, 2017

It is the Free Child to Free Child interactions that provide for the emotional intimacy between two people. Read more »

Categories: Marriage, relationship - Tags: fear of intimacy, Marriage

How many personality types is the right number?

on June 23, 2017

In reality there are as many personality types as there are people on this planet, over 6 billion. Read more »

Categories: Life position - Tags: Transactional analysis

Goodness of fit in parenting

on June 21, 2017

Of course all parents project onto their offspring and at times identify with personality characteristics in their children. Read more »

Categories: child development, parenting - Tags: child ego state, Parenting

Suicide and the copy cat effect

on June 7, 2017

In essence homicide-suicide is seen as a subtype of suicide. Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: homicide, suicide

Hot potatoe as a homicidal act.

on April 10, 2017

Indeed if a rescuer is doing this then they really cannot be seen as a rescuer and would need to be more correctly diagnosed as a persecutor. Read more »

Categories: drug, suicide - Tags: homicide, suicide

Listening to the unconscious in self

on March 22, 2017

In working with enactments the therapist must seek to become aware of their unconscious and dissociated parts of self. Read more »

Categories: Theory - Tags: enactment, games, unconscious

The suicide homicide attempt

on February 21, 2017

2. If things get too bad I will kill myself and others. Read more »

Categories: suicide, Uncategorized - Tags: suicide

Assimilative psychotherapy

on February 2, 2017

At some point one needs to switch from rejecting this part of self to an integration of it. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: psychotherapy

The importance of good Adult ego state in relationships

on January 28, 2017

Revenge, wanting justice to be done, to have my day in court or for things to be made fair are all wishes and desires that reduce one’s ability to drop a feeling. Read more »

Categories: relationship - Tags: Marriage

The politics of diagnosis.

on January 26, 2017

othing has actually changed in Australians. All that has changed is the diagnosis to include more people. Read more »

Categories: society values - Tags: autism, mental health

Tony White

TSTA | Psychologist