Birth order and personality

Alfred Adler in the 1930s, for the first time suggested the idea that birth order can have a lasting influence on personality and behavior According to him the eldest child is socially dominant and intellectual, but tends to seek approval from others because he is no longer the center of attention following the birth of a sibling; that the middle child, being sandwiched between older and younger siblings, is competitive and diplomatic; and that the youngest child tends to be selfish and demanding, since he is used to being provided for.

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Oldest child (more exaggerated if male)

Injunctions

Don’t be a child

Don’t feel

Don’t be important

Don’t enjoy

 

Drivers

Work hard

Be strong

 

Largest ego states

Adult and Parent ego states

 

Life script

Non-winner

 

Personality type

O/C

Schizoid

Paranoid

 

Defence mechanisms

Repression

Denial

Intellectualisation

 

 

Youngest child (more exaggerated if female)

Injunctions

Don’t grow up

Don’t succeed

Don’t

Don’t think

Don’t be separate

 

Largest ego state

Child ego state

 

Life script

Winner or loser

 

Drivers

Please others

 

Personality type

Narcissistic

Histrionic

Dependent

 

Defence mechanisms

Regression

Acting out

Fantasy

Introjection

 

Sub groupings

Three children is the maximum that one parent can emotionally cover. After that sub groupings amongst siblings will form. Sub groupings are when two or more siblings establish a Parent Child relationship between them. The parent role sibling will exhibit oldest child qualities and the child role sibling will exhibit youngest child qualities. This may be encouraged by the parents.

Only child is usually an exaggeration of the youngest child qualities

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  1. zbig says:

    well,
    the oldest one has a “non winner” script? – that’s explains much about me.

    by the way – I would like to read more about these scripts, injunctions … – where they’re from, how they work – is there something to read on that subject (possibly e-book or a website over a paper book)

    regards,

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