Tony White

TSTA | Psychologist

Tony White

TSTA | Psychologist

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grief

Grief is a finite process

Written by Tony White on December 16, 2016 · Leave a Comment

Indeed the DSM 5 says if there is intense sorrow and emotional pain for a loved one after 12 months then that is classed as complicated bereavement, a neurotic condition. Read more »

Categories: dependency, grief - Tags: grief, loss

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Responses to suicide

Written by Tony White on December 7, 2015 · Leave a Comment

My experience with those who are close to a suicidal person finds the feeling and thinking responses to be wide and varied. By no means are they all negative as one might logically expect. Read more »

Categories: bereavement, grief, suicide - Tags: anger, feelings coward, suicide

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The two sides of goodbye work

Written by Tony White on January 19, 2015 · Leave a Comment

Full contact in relationships is something that many humans seek but at the same time can be frightening. It seems safe to say that the natural human condition is to have quite a strong ambivalence about emotional intimacy in relationship. Read more »

Categories: grief, relationship, society values - Tags: grief, here and now, therapy

Tony White’s Blog

Wednesday sleeping

The politics of diagnosis.

on September 6, 2019

The problem being is the entire Australian population gets pathologized. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: ADD, diagnosis

Schizoid

Schizoid personality type

on July 8, 2019

I would suggest there are two discrete sub groups in this personality type Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: life position, personality type, schizoid, Transactional analysis

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Demon subpersonality in nightmares

on June 5, 2019

I have suggested a different approach to those listed above to dealing with the demon and that is to engage with it in the relational. Read more »

Categories: Personality, psychotherapy - Tags: demon, nightmares

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The life of a PK

on March 22, 2019

I immediately found this an interesting discussion because I am also a PK. I am a psychologist’s kid (or psychotherapists kid). Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: pastors kid, transference

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Contracting in psychotherapy

on March 10, 2019

The problem with demand contracts is the client may just lie to you. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: contracts, psychotherapy

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Client’s chair in the therapy room – Part 2

on February 27, 2019

In addition as the client regresses more they become more open to hypnotic suggestions. Read more »

Categories: ego states - Tags: regression, therapy room

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The client’s chair in the therapy room.

on February 23, 2019

I have always said that a therapist’s room must be a bit beige, no high fashion and no dramatic statements. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: client chair, therapy

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Is it OK for a therapist to be proud of a client’s achievements?

on February 18, 2019

Then I wondered if that is OK to say to a client. I wondered if it was a bit paternalistic Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: feelings in therapy, pride, therapy

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Therapist self versus the real self

on January 28, 2019

Also if the therapy and therapist is overly sensitive and gentle then the client will tend to hyper sensitise and become ‘worse’ in that sense Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: Ego states, Free child, resilience

Run away

Fight, flight or freeze in therapy

on January 19, 2019

The person who flees the scene of an accident or the hit and run driver has the flight response. Read more »

Categories: bully, child development - Tags: fight, flight, freeze, temperament

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The bully victim dynamic

on January 18, 2019

As any child therapist knows the ‘client’ is the child and the parent child relationship. They are a package deal. Read more »

Categories: bully, child development - Tags: bully, Transactional analysis

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Drugs and danger

on January 7, 2019

You can’t keep lying to a group of people and not expect them to work that out. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: drugs, rock concerts, teenagers

What demon says

Working with the demon in therapy

on December 29, 2018

As I said, this was the first time we had ever had significant dialogue between me and this part of her. It will be interesting to see over time what happens, especially her reaction to me. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: demon sub personality, self destruction, therapy

Wednesday sleeping

Death anxiety

on December 29, 2018

One of the goals in trauma debriefing therapy is to reestablish this contamination in the client so they again begin to lie to themselves their potential mortality. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: contamination, death, Ego state, trauma

Demon and Lillith

Examination of the demon personality

on December 23, 2018

Instead you acknowledge its power in the therapy process and begin talking to it and forming relational contact when and how it wants. You don’t have a choice to do it any other way. As Berne says, it holds all the cards to play at any time it wants. Read more »

Categories: child development, Eating disorder - Tags: demon, therapy

Workshop on the demon sub personality.

on December 23, 2018

It is hoped this workshop can happen in the future. And that I can do demonstration leading on the demon in clients for people at the workshop to observe. However that means there will need to be people in the […] Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized

Empathy

Understanding feelings in others. Is empathy possible?

on December 1, 2018

Empathy is really quite a self involved process that is about self and not the other. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: emotions, empathy, feelings

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Make feels and LOC

on December 1, 2018

People with an internal LOC are quite willing to have personal insight to how they may be contributing to their own problems such as their rackets and the games they may play. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: locus of control

Car accident “suicides”

on October 31, 2018

In all that I have read there is never even one mention of people using car crashes as a type of suicide attempt. Read more »

Categories: suicide

Suicide attempt by – “I will get you to kill me”

on October 29, 2018

These are not primarily murders they are primarily suicide attempts. Read more »

Categories: suicide - Tags: death by cop

Wednesday sleeping

Belief and thinking

on September 3, 2018

Of course it works the other way as well. “Good” belief systems are also resilient and resistant to change. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: belief system, Ego states, thinking errors, Transactional analysis

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Family system drug addict

on August 31, 2018

For a family system drug user it is actually a good thing, as it is easier for the person to eventually stop using the drug. Read more »

Categories: addiction - Tags: addiction, alcohol, drug addiction, family system, munchausen syndrome by proxy

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Evidence based psychotherapy

on August 22, 2018

As you can see psychodynamic therapy does quite well. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: psychotherapy, redecision, research, TA

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Introjection in psychotherapy

on August 17, 2018

This provides an interesting insight into introjection in this instance. She hasn’t introjected what I have said but instead introjected my voice sound and quality. Then she has applied that introjected voice to her own words. Read more »

Categories: Uncategorized - Tags: counselling, drugs, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

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Empathy is magical thinking

on August 12, 2018

Here is a definition of empathy The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another This represents magical thinking One can only ever feel their own feelings. You can […] Read more »

Categories: emotions - Tags: empathy

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Mother and child relationships

on August 10, 2018

Mothers and fathers can generally treat their various children in a similar ways and one could even say equally, but they are not going to feel the same about each of them. Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: children, Parenting

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Hypnotic induction and ulterior transactions

on July 14, 2018

The importance of emotional catharsis in psychotherapy has been known since the time of Freud. Maybe there are two factors involved in this observation. Yes the expression of feelings can be psychologically beneficial for the client but also the client picks up hypnotic inductions at the same time. Read more »

Categories: psychotherapy - Tags: adult ego state, child ego state, hypnosis, life script

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Introjection and the integrated Adult

on June 22, 2018

People are adding new introjections to their Parent ego state continuously through out life as part of normal psychological functioning. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: adult ego state, Ego states, introjection, Transactional analysis

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Introjection – two aspects.

on June 21, 2018

The Child ego state develops through early decisions and the Parent ego state develops through introjections. Read more »

Categories: child development - Tags: introjection

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Desensitisation and hyper sensitisation

on June 17, 2018

However it also works the other way. If we are in an environment where we have little confrontational input then the Free Child will assume that is going to continue and it will come out more and more so we become hyper sensitised. Read more »

Categories: Personality - Tags: personality

Latest Posts

  • The politics of diagnosis.
  • Schizoid personality type
  • Demon subpersonality in nightmares
  • The life of a PK
  • Contracting in psychotherapy
  • Client’s chair in the therapy room – Part 2
  • The client’s chair in the therapy room.
  • Is it OK for a therapist to be proud of a client’s achievements?
  • Therapist self versus the real self
  • Fight, flight or freeze in therapy
  • The bully victim dynamic
  • Drugs and danger
  • Working with the demon in therapy
  • Death anxiety
  • Examination of the demon personality

Latest Comments

  • Naomi Wheeler on The life of a PK
  • Workshop on the demon sub personality. | Tony White on The shadow
  • Colin Ogdon on Contracting in psychotherapy
  • Nataliia on The client’s chair in the therapy room.
  • Colin Ogdon on Is it OK for a therapist to be proud of a client’s achievements?
  • Workshop on the demon sub personality in Kiev. | Tony White on The Demon sub personality (Aka Lillith)
  • maria bran on Hypnotic induction and ulterior transactions
  • Maria on Developmental problems for the child from the affluent family
  • David Foster on Features of rackets
  • MetDaan on Aversion therapy & implied communication in therapy
  • Jeanette McCallum on Working through scared feelings.
  • Tony White on Post suicide fantasy
  • Paul McManus on Post suicide fantasy
  • maria bran on Post suicide fantasy
  • Agnes on Reverse psychology as a therapeutic approach (and the teenager)

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